Bonus Time: Why I Started My50Firsts.com

Where did the idea for My 50 Firsts come from?

I credit my mom and dad — though not in the way you might expect. It began with the concept of bonus time. A friend from college recently reminded me of this mindset: those years after we’ve outlived our parents’ age of death. My brothers and I have talked about it often — that strange mix of gratitude and disbelief when you realize you’ve crossed that invisible line.

When I turned 40, I had outlived my mom. I took a breath and thought, I made it. I was on bonus time.

What Bonus Time Taught Me

For the past 40 years, I’ve lived with the awareness that life can be cut short — and that makes it precious. My 50 Firsts is about filling that time intentionally, not letting fear or circumstance hold me back. If I can’t find a partner for an adventure, I’ll pursue it on my own. If I’m scared to try something new, I’ll try it scared.

I’ve learned that moving forward is the only way through. I cried nearly every day after my mother died, but I didn’t stop living. I’ve chosen to rest deeply in sadness when I need to — and then to rise again. I owe it to my mom to soak up the life I’ve been given. She was a renaissance woman: smart, energetic, artsy, gritty, creative, and adventurous. But she didn’t get the chances I have, so I’m taking them for her.

 

Lessons from My Dad

My dad’s story is different. His life was cut short at 55 — in most views, a becoming age, not an ending. He let his addictions win, and in doing so, lost his motivation and energy. He missed out on so much living. I often think: if only he had created a bucket list. If only he had embraced the possibilities ahead with the freedom of an empty nest. If only he had been excited to continue sharing his stories, wisdom and experience with kids (and grandkids) while still adding to them.

That’s what My 50 Firsts is — a call to action for all of us who are still here, still curious, still capable of joy and new adventures. That means you. Your story is still being written.

 

Why I Built My50Firsts.com

I didn’t want this to be a sad story. I wanted it to be a spark. Life after 50 isn’t a slow fade — it’s bonus time. It’s the chance to fill our days with new experiences, new interests, and new adventures.

Let your 50+ bring joy and excitement. Try something for the first time. Do what you always wanted to do. Turn your bucket list into an action list.

Join the Movement

My50Firsts.com is a space for people over 50 to rediscover curiosity, courage, and connection. It’s about celebrating the life we still have — and the firsts we’ve yet to try. Start by making your list. If you need inspiration and ideas, visit My50firsts.com or follow us on social media.

Let’s get going.